{"id":89,"date":"2022-05-03T21:01:16","date_gmt":"2022-05-03T21:01:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/trezinia.com\/wp\/?p=89"},"modified":"2022-05-03T21:26:17","modified_gmt":"2022-05-03T21:26:17","slug":"to-shrink-or-not-to-shrink","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trezinia.com\/?p=89","title":{"rendered":"To Shrink – Or not to Shrink?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

DISCLAIMER:
For purposes of utmost chastity towards them, I will refrain from mentioning their verified designation.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They <\/sup><\/strong><\/em>have this inkling to associate ANYTHING traumatic with your INNER CHILD

– oooooooh
That makes me sick!!!!!!!!!!

Not everyone was neglected as a child
Some of us enjoyed our upbringing
Some of us had <\/strong>AND STILL HAVE the ability to deal with and <\/strong>address problems as and when they arise
I don’t need to connect with that “scared 7-year-old little child”<\/em>
Who TF said that I was seven years old then ~BHAMM! – jumped straight to 30<\/sup>-something?

They try to get you to forfeit all the years in-between and reach out to a memory of a tarnished, make-belief little kid<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Come the fuck on!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you know why I’m at your consulting room hey, shrink?
Hmm
Wanna know why I’m here?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My life sucks right now!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’m being subjected to workplace mobbing!
YES
My 30-something year old self gets bullied at my job
NO!  I can’t stand up for myself, I’ll get fired!
I have to snort the debris that they hand out – seeing as though we’re all currency chasing<\/code>
We have to pay funds for residing on this planet
There’s nowhere else for us to go (yea, yea – space programs promote a contrary narrative) – but you’re missing the point<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another thing, we are P R E S E N T L Y <\/sub>being abused by our romantic cohorts

“just pack up and leave”
Haaa<\/strong>
Haaa<\/strong>
Haaa,<\/strong> let’s all laugh together<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People who haven’t experienced domestic abuse have no fucking idea<\/strong> what it’s like
They haven’t the slightest apprehension of how you’re gradually beaten into submission
I don’t mean singularly being battered and bruised with fists and weapons –
OH no\u2026
It’s not always physical BEATINGS
Abuse victims will tell you, the abuse didn’t stem from on fortuitous event
It happened progressively
There’s so much to discuss about that, we’ll dive nose-first into that one later<\/mark><\/em>
For now, we’re telling these conformist helpers<\/em> who you pay an hourly rate to\u2026 that the CURRENT ABUSE hurts and damages one’s dignity<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You’ve sought their counsel as a means to cope with your existing trauma, right!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can tell that I'm mad hey?
The tone here isn't my usual, mellow vibes
I'm mad for being misunderstood
Mad because I know that someone else can relate, but can't exactly express it<\/code><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’m telling you
That YOU will get thru the shit
You don’t require an endorsement from someone who had to learn via a textbook how to navigate through and around trauma
YOU <\/strong>– the subject – have first hand experience
You’ve tried the generic “talk to a professional” <\/em><\/strong>approach<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are the professional<\/strong>
You are the survivor<\/strong>
You are the brave one<\/strong>
You are the ‘illuminated<\/strong>‘<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You and your inner however-old-self<\/em> that you are<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You <\/strong>know yourself <\/strong>better than anyone else does
Remember that, okay<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just to recap:
My past cannot hurt me
– It doesn’t exist
My today<\/em> is a pain in the ass
The right here, right now<\/strong><\/code> is the only real time
Tomorrow is non-existent
Yesterday doesn’t exist either
If they <\/strong><\/sup>don’t have tools to guide you through your present moment, don’t let them <\/sup><\/strong>fabricate thoughts and memories of a time that doesn’t exist and CANNOT be changed<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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